We gave up the pacifier last week. I say we, because I truly believe it was harder for me than it was for her! We settled on some new habits, which we may or may not regret later. She has a bedtime routine, for sure – we just eliminated the beloved "paci."
We do bath time, which she seems to love, brush teeth (she seems not to love), then lotion, nighttime diaper, pajamas, comb and dry hair, drink of water, a few rounds of Pat the Bunny and Goodnight Moon, with favorite blanket, rocking chair and a lap. In the crib, she has a turtle that glows with stars projected onto the ceiling (cue Gracie's "woooww" here), her Gloworm which plays music and Sleep Sheep that mimics the ocean/white noise. All of these distract her and help her go to sleep.
Hopefully she will outgrow all this by the time she gets married.